Learn To Accept Instead Of Expect

"You must utterly believe that the circumstances of your life, that is, every minute of your life, as well as the whole course of your life — anything, yes, everything that happens — have all come to you by His will and by His permission. You must utterly believe that everything that has happened to you is from God and is exactly what you need."
— Madame Jeanne Guyon

One of the hardest thing to do in life is to learn how to accept people for who they are. You must accept that you can't change others. You can only change yourself and your own reactions. Changing your own behavior may trigger others to want to make changes. The truth is you can't change the other person's behavior, but you can change your own. And when you change, everything will change. The truth is only God can change human's heart and if you can't accept yourself, you can't accept others.

There’s just a point in your life where you just have to accept that not everything you wished or hoped for will come true. A time when you just have to gather up the courage to let it go and entrust everything to God, knowing He won’t allow you to be in situations of pain for the sake of "hurting" — but for the sake of "learning". One day, you will truly understand that God knows you more than you know yourselves and He loves you more than you can ever know. That even when you feel alone and misunderstood, and even sometimes unloved and used, there’s that One person who knows all your flaws yet loves you unconditionally, like no man can. He loves you, not because of what you do — He loves you for who you are. 

In our immature and sick society, love has become, "If you don't love me and give me what I want, I'll hate you, and you'll pay!" It is love under the threat of abandonment, which is, in the final analysis, not love at all. It is conditional love. It's using love as a weapon and using our withdrawal, our withholding of love, as a selfish means of control. When we find love from God, we find pure, unconditional, indestructible, eternal love. As we find God's love and become accepting and whole within Him, I believe we will find that our relationships will be about each person's growth toward their unique potentials as individuals and as a team.   

To live in humility is to live always in total confidence of God’s love and acceptance and therefore you have no concern for yourself when others insult you or praise you. Since you are secure in God’s love, you don’t have to base your identity on whether or not others acknowledge you. There is no fear of rejection for those who have complete security in God's love and acceptance — they can express themselves fearlessly.

When you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll surely avoid getting hurt and you'll have fewer disappointments. You have to accept reality instead of fighting it.  Don’t let what you expected to happen blind you from all the good things that are happening.  When you stop expecting people and things to be perfectly the way you had imagined, you can enjoy them for who and what they truly are. 

You don't need to seek acceptance, approval, appreciation, and love from people. You are fully accepted, appreciated, approved and loved by God. He will always love you and he will always accept you. If you really believe that God is in complete control of all your circumstances, you would accept life as it comes to you without complaining. And when you reach the place where you are willing to do or accept God's will whatever the cost — all His strength is yours.