16 March, 2014

Stop Expecting Others To Make You Whole

Many of our needs that feel like a craving for human companionship are actually yearnings that can only be satisfied by intimacy with God. 
Grantley Morris   

One of the most famous actresses, Marilyn Monroe, committed suicide, and psychoanalysts have been brooding on the reason why. She was one of the most beautiful women ever, one of the most successful. She had everything to live for; you cannot conceive of more fame, more success, more charisma, more beauty, more health. Everything was there, nothing could be improved upon, and still something was lacking. The inside, the within, was empty. Then, suicide is the only way.

There's a reason you feel like something is missing in your life. People who seemingly have everything can still feel empty inside. Unless you have something inside you which is not dependent on anything outside, unless you have intimacy with God, no matter how much you achieve, you will still feel empty. There is a big God-shaped hole in the middle of your heart that can be satisfied only by God. In human relationships one of the major mistakes we make is of handing over our heart to loved ones and expecting them to take over God’s job


Stop expecting others to make you whole. No human being has the capacity to offer you what is needed for true value and self worth. That can only come from within. Marriage is not the cure for your emotional wounds and loneliness. It’s impossible to heal your own emotional brokenness through the body of another person as mortal and broken as you are. Only God's love can heal and make you whole.  True security comes from our relationship with God, and whatever praises and encouragement we receive outside of that are simply overflow.  Stop trying to fill your emptiness from the outside. Let God's love fill you from the inside. 

God is the only thing, the only Person we really do need. He made us to need, to appreciate, to worship and to enjoy Him. Apart from Him, there is no real fulfillment, no true joy, no lasting peace. The abundant Christ-Life, strength and health are being built up within you. God within you is mighty to quicken, heal, vitalize, and renew; and to make you entirely whole. God lives in you and will become manifest through you.



God is so real to me. A closeness I can feel, a goodness I can taste and a reality I can experience. Although many people think that God is far away from them but the truth is He is very near indeed with his merciful grace. God is closer than you think. Intimacy with God can happen if you want it. 

The truth in our mind is so powerful that we can affect how we feel by what we think or believe. Our mind must be renewed to the truth before the truth can set us free. When God's light comes, welcome it. It may be painful or difficult to believe with your normal conscious mind, but if it is the truth you will recognize it and realize that it is something that you need to know.

Like a surgeon that must cut his patient in order to heal his body, the truth must hurt us in order to heal us. Truth is like surgery, it hurts but it heals. Trust the light. Say yes to it. It will then begin to heal you. It will show you new possibilities for your life. It will show you the way through. However bad the news seems to be at first, accept it and let its truth pervade your whole being.

His light will lead you out of darkness into the light of life, into the way of peace and into the life and power of truth. As soon as you accept what is being revealed to you by the Holy Spirit, you will begin to feel different. Even bad news will seem strangely good. Accepting the truth is like making peace. An inner conflict is being resolved. This is the beginning of changes that the light may bring about. 

Life change comes from a mind renewed by the truth of God's Word. Knowing God's love, renewing our mind with His truth, and identifying as a son or daughter are key to a transformed life.  And remember, it is only when you no longer compulsively need someone to make you whole that you can have a real relationship with them.



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